Be Happy When Childless
A lot of childless women wrestle with the deep conflict of not having a girl or a child all the time. For these women, the grief of not having a baby on Mother's Day is overwhelming. Seeing others appreciate the day, she says, is "an undeniable sign of the frustration and disappointment women fall into when faced with failure." However, Mother's Day need not be dull for women with puberty problems.
What to do about childlessness?
Have children
If you want to have kids, then go
ahead and have them. There's no need to think twice about having children and
if you're not ready yet, don't worry about it. If you've already decided to
have kids, then make sure you get pregnant right away. Don't wait until you're
40 years old or something. You'll regret it later.
Wait until you're older
You might think that waiting until
you're 30 or 35 years old would be best, but I'm telling you that it isn't.
Waiting until you're older means that you'll probably end up getting married
and having kids before you even know what you want out of life. So instead,
just start trying to get pregnant now. When you're younger, you won't feel any
pressure to settle down or find someone special. Plus, you'll still have time to
finish school and travel around the world.
Get sterilized
There are many ways to get
sterilized, but the easiest way is to use birth control pills. Birth control
pills prevent pregnancy by stopping ovulation. In order to stop ovulation, they
increase progesterone levels in the body. Progesterone is a hormone produced by
the ovaries that causes the lining of the uterus to thicken and prepare for
implantation. By increasing progesterone levels, birth control pills cause the
lining of the uterus (endometrium) to become thick and strong, preventing sperm
from entering the uterus.
Use condoms
Condoms are great for preventing
STDs and unwanted pregnancies. Condoms are thin pieces of latex that cover the
penis and vagina. They fit snugly over the penis and hold onto the opening of
the vagina. Condoms are often used together with birth control pills to help
prevent pregnancy.
Abstinence
Abstinence is a method of
contraception where you abstain from sex. Abstinence is not recommended for
people who are sexually active. However, abstinence is a good option for those
who aren't sexually active.
Vasectomy
Vasectomies are surgical procedures
that remove the vas deferens, which is a tube that carries sperm from the
testicles to the urethra. Sperm cannot pass through the vas deferens without
being removed. A vasectomy is performed under general anesthesia and takes
approximately 15 minutes to complete. After the surgery, the incision is closed
with stitches and bandages.
Tubal Ligation
Tubal ligations are surgical
procedures that cut off the fallopian tubes. Fallopian tubes connect the
ovaries to the uterus. Without these tubes, eggs cannot leave the ovaries and
enter the uterus. Tubal ligations are performed under general anesthesia and
take approximately 20-30 minutes to complete. Afterward, the incision is
stitched and bandaged.
How can I be happy when childless?
Your parents did not die in
childbirth. They have been dead long before they even conceived you. And if
they had died in childbirth, then you would never exist at all. You were born
out of love. A miracle. Because death is only a temporary condition. We all
know that. We all accept it. But how many times do we truly think about the
reality of our own mortality? When was the last time you thought about what it
would be like to pass away without ever having lived? I bet it's never occurred
to you. Never crossed your mind. It doesn't matter whether you are religious or
not. Whether you believe in God or not. Whether you pray or not. Whether you go
to Church or not. It doesn't matter. All of those things are just distractions
from the truth. What matters most is your relationship with God.
You are not going to hell. Hell
does not exist. There is no place where you could be sent after your passing.
There is no judgment day. All of the things people talk about regarding the
afterlife - heaven/hell, angels, demons, judgement day - those are just myths
created to give us comfort. Those stories are written to make us feel safe. To
help us sleep well at night. They're stories. Not true. The Bible says that
Jesus came to save sinners. That means you. He said he was sent to find lost
sheep.. and you are His lost sheep. You don't need to fear hell. You need to
fear losing everything else. You need to fear dying without Christ. Without
eternal salvation. You need to fear being separated from Him forever.
If you are happy, then you are
doing okay. Happiness comes from knowing you belong to Jesus. Knowing you are
forgiven. Being free from condemnation. Free from guilt. Free from shame. Free
from pain. Happy people who are struggling in sin, do not really know God. They
may say they do, but their hearts tell them something different. Their actions
speak louder than words. They are miserable. They are afraid. They hurt others
without meaning to. They struggle. They doubt. They look forward to being
saved, and they wait to be saved. If you are happy now, you already know God.
You already have Jesus inside of you. You already know that you are forgiven
and cleansed and set free. There is nothing more you need to learn. You are
complete. You are good enough. You are loved. You are valuable. You are
perfect. You are beautiful. You are worthy. You are strong. You are powerful.
You are whole. You are home. You are free. You are loved.
Most people want children. Many
people have chosen to stay single. But that doesn't mean it wasn't a choice. It
doesn't mean you weren't given choices. It doesn't mean someone didn't choose
for you. It doesn't mean they didn't give you a soulmate. It doesn't mean it
isn't
What are the causes of childlessness?
1. Lack of knowledge about how to use their fertility effectively.
2. Lack of skills at handling and
understanding the body's natural functions.
3. Not using the correct
contraceptive methods.
4. Having sex during menstruation.
5. Being over 35 years old.
6. Having many children before
marriage.
7. Using contraception
incorrectly.
8. Having sex without protection
after childbirth.
9. Having sex while having an STI
(sexually transmitted infection).
10. Having sex with someone who
has HIV/AIDS.
11. Not taking enough rest between
pregnancies.
12. Having unprotected sex with a
man with other partners.
13. Lying about sexual activity.
14. Failing to take care of
oneself emotionally and physically.
What should you not say to childless?
You have kids?
If you have kids, then it's obvious
what you should say.
I don't know if I'll want children someday.
This may seem selfish to some
people, but it makes sense. If you know you don't want kids, tell them right
away. Being honest about your feelings will help your relationship last longer
than if you lie.
I'm afraid I won't be able to take care of my family.
Try to find out if they need
anything before you make assumptions on how well you're going to do as a
parent. Even if you don't plan on having kids yourself, helping raise someone
else's children can still benefit others.
My spouse doesn't want children either.
Even though you've already decided
you don't want kids together, it might be tough at first. Don't let them
control your love life. There's no way around getting married if both parties
agree on it, and even if you decide you don't want to get married any time
soon, you shouldn't feel pressured into having kids.
I don't think I could ever adopt.
Adoption is the best option for
many people who wish to have a child. Adoptive parents are generally under less
pressure to give birth and tend to bond faster than biological parents, and
adoption is relatively quick and inexpensive compared to parenting.
I really want a baby now.
If you're just starting to think
about making a baby, wait until after you've had some experience dealing with
pregnancy. Most women report feeling worse while pregnant and only start to
feel better once their baby arrives. By waiting, you'll also avoid being faced
with the possibility of infertility.
I'd prefer to stay single forever.
You may have been hurt in the past
by a potential partner who didn't share the same perspective on parenthood, but
if you haven't met anyone yet who wants kids, why force something that isn't
working? You'll never know what kind of person you'll meet tomorrow if you wait
for someone to ask you out, especially since becoming a mother can change a
woman's looks.
How common is childlessness?
The concept of not having children
is becoming increasingly popular among many couples who have been struggling to
conceive naturally. In fact, some people choose to adopt or foster instead of
have their own children. Even celebrities have fallen victim to this trend.
According to the 2016 census, only 26% of women between 20-49 years old had
given birth at least once. That’s roughly one out of four women!
In addition, the rate of
infertility rose dramatically over time, and now affects about 6 million
American adults. Couples who do manage to become pregnant often struggle with
fertility problems after they give birth. Approximately 15 percent of babies
born each year in the U.S. are conceived using assisted reproductive technology
(ART). While ART may help infertile couples achieve pregnancy, it comes with
side effects and risks that make it difficult to recommend without careful
consideration. If you plan to use any of these methods, here are three things
to know before making the decision:
What Is Infertility?
Infertility refers to the inability
to get pregnant after 12 months of trying. Most of the time, infertility is not
a single problem; rather, it’s a combination of various factors that contribute
to a couple being unable to have a baby. Many times, the cause of infertility
cannot be detected or treated, even if a woman tries several different
treatments.
What Are the Causes of Infertility?
Different causes of infertility
exist, including:
• Poor quality eggs/ovaries
• Tubal blockage
• Endometriosis/uterine fibroids
• Ovulation disorders
• Male factor infertility
• Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS)
• Unexplained
• Cancer
Childlessness conclusion
A childless woman takes her first
walk down memory lane - and finds herself wondering whether it's time to get
hitched again.
The choice to be childfree is yours
to make. You have no commitment to attempt all courses imaginable prior to
picking a childfree life. You might wind up in a circumstance of decision, or
you might feel you've been compelled to acknowledge a childfree life.
Regardless of how you come to be
childfree, you don't owe anybody a clarification. If you and your accomplice
(on the off chance that you have one) find a sense of contentment with the
choice, it's the right one. With time, support, and perhaps proficient
directing, you will recuperate. A blissful life is conceivable without
youngsters.
"You must damage before you
can recuperate. The recuperating is non-direct. There will be great and awful
days. Fruitlessness isn't something you move past. You find some peace with it.
Tokens of what could have been will remain, however the torment will, in time,
die down. Harmony and bliss will get back to your life. You currently have a
degree of empathy that will work well for you until the end of your life. You
will find you're more grounded than you at any point expected. Your change will
give a way to another life. Jump all over the chance to apply all you've
learned."
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